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CONFORMITY MAKES EVERYONE LIKE YOU EXCEPT YOURSELF

Everyone-well most of us- loves to be around people we could call friends, those we could hang out with, make plans with, share ideas with, joke with and share secrets with. For the last category, only a few people, very few, could make the list of the people we share our secrets with.

In a bid to get so many people to like us or be in agreement with our thoughts, most of us tend to bend to every other person’s opinion because we don’t want to be seen as different and we don’t want to lose people; we don’t want to lose “friends”.

Conforming to everyone’s opinion makes you more or less an a*s kisser and while you keep at it, you absolutely lose yourself; your self worth and whatever was supposed to make you the person you ought to be. You don’t even have an inner fulfillment that this is who you are. People don’t know you for your opinion, they know you for nodding yes to everyone’s opinions; dumb or not.

Trying to conform to a world that doesn’t fit your personality is pointless. You were made to stand out and impact lives; change the lives of others. Life is more than substance and sensuality, so don’t allow them the encompass your reality. They leave you in a state of unknowing. You lose your morals and get stuck between what you know to be the right decision and your mistakes.

If you are not happy at a place, please move further and find happiness elsewhere; don’t get stuck on sadness because of what people would say. If it kills you at the end of the day, they would mock you and move on with their imperfect lives.

You should, know, first, that life is not meant to be perfect; sometimes move out and make your mistakes; learn from them and be a better version of yourself. If you have to lose some people in the process; then so be it. Align with people of like minds; people who can easily connect to your soul and make you complete.

According to Jim Rohn; “The worst thing one can do is not to try, to be aware of what one wants and not give in to it, to spend years in silent hurt wondering if something could have materialized–never knowing.”

So like Rihanna said, “live your life”….

Hello,

I’m Tèmítọ́pẹ́

As a central analytic for the work of the institutional ethnographer, standpoint foregrounds the ways individuals are unique and therefore uniquely experience the broad social relations and institutional circuits in which they are embedded.
Standpoint recognizes that how people negotiate their social circumstances as professionals is entirely wrapped up in their ways of being in the world—who we are, what we know, how we are seen by others, our designated roles, and how we have been credentialed or come by our experiences all play a role in how we carry out our daily work.

— Michelle LaFrance, Institutional Ethnography, 2019.